The four Attachment Styles
SECURE
A securely attached individual is able to navigate through relationships, speaking up for their needs, having reasonable boundaries and having a healthy level of interdependence. They tend to be empathetic, value communication and show up well to meet the needs of their partners.
ANXIOUS PREOCCUPIED
An anxious preoccupied individual, commonly referred to as a 'love addict' is extremely kind, warm and friendly but at the cost of being boundary-less as they deeply fear of abandonment. They have a very high need for connection and do their best to maintain it in their relationships, causing them to dismiss their own desires and sometimes violating the boundaries of others.
DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT
The dismissive avoidant is known to be very logical and intellectually intelligent. They more likely to stay away from relationships as they highly value their independence, autonomy and freedom and fear closeness, intimacy and vulnerability. They prefer not to be relied upon, often finding it difficult to meet the needs of others and tend to find emotional connection very uncomfortable. Many prefer more surface-level connections.
FEARFUL AVOIDANT
An individual with a fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganised attachment style or anxious avoidant attachment style, is often referred to as the hot and cold partner as they swing from their anxious side to their avoidant side. They tend be very deep, present and hypervigilent, making them highly attuned to the needs of others. Their shift from anxious to avoidant means that they seek connection from their partners, but when they feel there is too much closeness, they push them away.
Which attachment style do you think you have?